8 Definite Signs He’s Cheating On You

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Cheating is normally considered the ultimate betrayal and the hard issue to bounce back from in a relationship. This is because trust is very critical … It’s the foundation a relationship is built on.

If you can’t trust a guy, to be honest with you, then everything else you try to build with each other will just fall apart.

It’s normal not to want to admit it could be happening, so you may ignore these signs. Or maybe these signs are there and you’re willing to see them. However, you don’t even know what to look for.

On the other side, if you’ve been cheated on before and this is the big issue for you, you may know these signs all too well.

This can be a good thing because you’ll be able to understand what’s going on quickly and get out.

Or it can be a bad thing because you’re hypersensitive and zeroing in on non-issues because of the trauma in your past life. So insecurity and paranoia take over.

Sometimes it helps to set aside your feeling as much as you possibly can.

Maybe that means temporarily letting go of your fear that you could lose everything you have with him if you’re right about it. Or your anxiety that it could be happening to you all over again.

Set aside those emotions for just a minute and think logically about his behavior, and you can get to the answer you want.

One or two of these signs might not mean anything to you. But if they start piling up, you need to take the possibility that he might be cheating on you.

These Are 8 Signs Your Guy Might Be Cheating On You:

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1. He’s on his phone more than usual then he’s cheating

If he’s suddenly glued to his phone, check out. This is a big concern if he’s sneaky about it.

If he doesn’t share with you who he’s talking to or what he’s doing and gets mad if you ask him or happen to glance at his phone, this is a red signal.

A guy who’s 100% into the relationship and doesn’t have other women in the mix will have nothing to hide.

He won’t be constantly texting somebody else and acting funny about it.

If you notice like his attention is always elsewhere, either directed at his phone or the laptop, then he could be connecting with somebody else online.

If he acts defensive about this, won’t tell you more, and tries to hide it from you. This is a sign he’s cheating or going to cheat.

2. He cares about his appearance much more than usual

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If he suddenly takes more interest in his appearance when you’re in an established relationship, he’s probably trying to impress someone.

Has he joined a gym out of nowhere? Is he trying to lose weight?

If he never had an interest in exercise before, he could be preening to try to attract somebody new.

Is he trying out much more updated hairstyle?

Shopping for new clothes for him and dressing differently?

Maybe wearing different clothes, one you didn’t choose?

These are all common behaviors of guys when they’re trying to attract women (you may recognize some of them from when you first started dating him!). And don’t really mesh with how he acts when he’s already in an established relationship with you.

Is it possible he just want to feel better about himself and maybe impress you? Yes, of course.

You can’t take any of these signs in a vacuum. You have to think about the whole picture.

3. He’s suddenly very busy with work

If he suddenly has to travel more frequently, or he’s having a lot more late nights at the office, it could be a concern.

If he’s recently been promoted or his job has changed somehow, this might not be something you have to worry about.

But if you know this is not the case and he’s exhibiting some of the other signs here as well. It’s a definite cause for major concern.

Is he going out after work more frequently for happy hours with other people from the office?

If there’s a new woman at work this could be a way for him to spend some time with her off the clock and away from the office, to get to know that woman on a more personal level.

If he never went to work happy hours before and suddenly starts going regularly, it could be a sign he’s gonna cheat.

It’s also possible he’s using “work” as a cover for whatever he’s out there doing behind your back.

4. He avoids intimacy with you

This is not similar to avoiding sex, this is about showing affectionate and loving behavior.

If a man is cheating because he’s in love with somebody new, it could make him feel like he’s cheating on his new lover with you if he’s affectionate and loving with both of you, especially if he’s a loyal man by nature and cheating is something new for him.

Even if he’s not in love with the person he’s cheating with, somebody engaging in infidelity can be uncomfortable behaving intimately with a girlfriend because it runs counter to their cheating behavior.

Unless he’s a total sociopath, he probably still has feelings for you, and that will make him feel a little bit of guilt.

Showing loving behavior toward you when he’s cheating on you would make your guy feel even worse.

5. He hasn’t taken his online dating profile down then he’s cheating

While you close your social media account the second you became official … you notice he never did.

Or maybe he did, but you noticed it suddenly became reactivated.

A man who isn’t seeking to cheat will not leave his profile up once you’re official, and if he shut it down when you do, he definitely won’t reactivate it later.

This is a clear sign he’s already cheating, or at the very least wants to cheat.

Does your guy have a dating app on his phone that wasn’t there before, or when you ask him to delete it you notice it’s still there weeks later?

These are not the signs of a man who wants to be faithful with you.

6. He suddenly needs a lot of privacy

Everybody wants a certain amount of privacy, and people can be different about how much of it they need.

Few people are fine with sharing their email passwords or leaving their Facebook pages open, others are not.

The point is, he won’t be one way and then suddenly change without any reason.

If he used to keep his phone unlocked all the time and leave it as it is on the table when he left the room, and now it’s always locked and he takes it with him.

Or he used to leave his social media accounts open when he walked away from the computer and now he’s signing out first, then there’s a reason.

Privacy about his own personal space is important too. If he used to want to have you around right when he got off from work, and now he wants to go right to the bedroom for his “me” time or a shower first, this could be a sign of cheating.

In the end, relationships are about openness and sharing, right?.

You are working toward sharing a life with each other.

If it felt like he was open and sharing before but now he’s suddenly shutting you out, it’s a huge red signal.

7. Hides his finances

While he used to leave his credit card statements or his bills out on the table, he’s suddenly very stealthy with all bank statements and receipts.

If he’s spending money on somebody new, he won’t want you to notice and question it.

If you do happen to see his receipts or statements, have his spending habits changed?

A guy who’s cheating is probably going to be spending more, whether for new clothes for himself, gifts for the new woman he’s cheating with, or dinners out or even trips together.

He won’t want you to know about it. So he’ll try to hide his finances when he used to be totally open about them.

8. Hides his finances

While he used to leave his credit card statements or his bills out on the table. He’s suddenly very stealthy with all bank statements and receipts.

If he’s spending money on somebody new, he won’t want you to notice and question it.

If you do happen to see his receipts or statements, have his spending habits changed?

A guy who’s cheating is probably going to be spending more, whether for new clothes for himself, gifts for the new woman he’s cheating with, or dinners out or even trips together.

He won’t want you to know about it, so he’ll try to hide his finances when he used to be totally open about them.

Some other signs that he is cheating:

  • He picks fights with you
  • Has major mood swings
  • He gets overly defensive when you ask if he’s cheating
  • stops saying “I love you”
  • His daily routine suddenly changes
  • You smell another woman on him
  • You feel it in your gut

What to Do If You Think He’s Cheating?

The fact that you’re thinking if he’s cheating on you is your first crucial sign. Something made you worry. You have to trust your gut!

Now think about the rest of the things on this list. If he’s doing some of them then it could be a coincidence.

Maybe he’s taking extra care with his appearance because he’s in a new position at a job and wants to dress to impress, which could also explain why he’s working late night so much.

But if he’s doing more than 5 things … then something is definitely up.

Either he’s losing interest in a relationship and possibly gaining interest in somebody new, or he’s already got somebody new and started cheating on you.

When it comes to dealing with the guy you love possibly cheating on you, what you have to understand is that you can’t control what he’s doing, you can only control how you choose to respond to this.

Unless you know for sure he’s already cheated, then distrusting him, blaming him, or punishing him are not the best way to go.

Instead, what you need to do is consider why he may be thinking of cheating.

This is not to say that if he wants to cheat you are the one to blame!

It’s to say that relationships take two, and someone totally happy and satisfied in a relationship is generally not going to look elsewhere.

So if his attention looks to be wandering and you’ve noticed some of these cheating signs. Start thinking about why he fell in love with you, to begin with, and bring that spark back into the relationship.

Don’t berate him for attending too many happy hours or staying too late at night at work or going on too many business trips.

Instead, try to carve out “we” time together. Suggest going on some of his trips with him, if possible. Be supportive.

But if you’re bringing a positive spark into the relationship and he’s still treating you badly.

If the trust feels like it’s completely gone or if you’re pretty sure he’s already cheated, you have to think about walking away. Remember that you can’t control him, but you can control yourself.

I hope this article gave you clarity on your circumstances. If your man is cheating, my heart goes out to you. I hope you are able to make the right decision in regards to what to do now.

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