Maybe you know which behaviors turn you off the most in other people. What is interesting and important to think about is which behaviors of yours could annoy others.
Everybody gets triggered by different behaviors, and it can take a while to figure out which ones irk that new person.
Here is a list of the most common dating behaviors that bother men and women:
Not letting your date decide what to do or where to go
When you meet somebody and have the first few dates, it’s polite and considerate to let that person help you plan the hangout.
Ask first if they have specific activities or restaurants in mind for that particular date as opposed to setting it up without their input.
It never hurts to ask directly how your date want to approach planning. There is nothing wrong with asking this: “Do you prefer another person to plan the date, or do you prefer to do the planning? Or do you like to make those decisions together?”
No matter the specifics, either ask about their approach to planning dates or simply suggest that you plan the date with each other.
Talking about exes or previous dates
Keep past romantic experiences off the table for the first few dates, at least. This behavior bothers men and women alike because it makes them wonder why you are preoccupied with thinking about somebody else when you’re out with them.
Focus on your date and invest you’re all energy in trying to get a sense of whether this is a personality type that you easily mesh with. In a simple word, it’s all about the mesh.
Getting too touchy soon
I can tell you that the following behavior is one of the major turn-ons in dating: a simple kiss on the cheek at the end of the date. If you hit it off and want to be with one another, you can get plenty of touchy in a future date.
(Important thing to remember: If you are meant to be together, you will end up together.)
But forcing an intimate kiss or even trying for a kiss on the lips too soon bothers all men and women because it feels pushy and presumptuous. Many people want a moment to reflect after a date.
About whether the person actually has or could have romantic feelings. So forcing physical intimacy should always be avoided.
Again, if you two have what it takes to last, you could be slow dancing in the living room to Endless Love on repeat for many years to come. There simply is no rush for that.
Being late for a date
Avoid this behavior at all costs. If you show up late on your first date and it doesn’t matter how understandable your excuse.
Your behavior sends the following message to the person you’re meeting: They aren’t that much important enough to be on time for.
Show your date respect by always allowing some extra time to arrive at where you’re going. Conversely, expect a new date to not want to see you again if you do happen to show up late for any excuses.
Asking questions that are too personal
The first few dates are a great time to get to know each other, but having a date with somebody doesn’t give you the right to ask questions that are too personal.
Asking questions about income, previous relationships, or deeply emotional topics can be too intrusive and intense when just meeting somebody.
If you choose to get pushy and ask these questions anyway, your date may be like many other people who would feel uncomfortable.
While it may sound insignificant, the behavior could bother that person enough that they might not want to see you again.
Trying too hard to impress
Going out of your way to prove what a great catch you always backfire. It’s important and helpful in dating to have confidence, but it’s another thing to try to prove it.
Boasting about accomplishments or how amazing your lifestyle is often turned men and women off because they feel like a salesman.
What’s more, most men and women have the insight to know that trying so hard to prove how great you have actually shown that you have low self-esteem.
Two rules you should never forget as you date
In simple words, be yourself; in three words, don’t try too hard.
Trying too hard takes a lot of energy, and it doesn’t make sense to invest so much time and energy in somebody when you don’t even know if you’ll still like that person a month later.
Remember what you like about you, and trust that anybody who gets to know you will inevitably come to see those same characteristics in you.
- 12 Things Guys Like in a girl beside Her looks
- How to Get a Boyfriend: Tips for Shy Girls
- Relationship Stages That Every Couple Go Through
- How Men fall in Love and Stay in Love