On one level, terms like commitment just don’t seem that romantic.
However, there are many stirring songs and films where the main character must face hard challenges, and commit to a set of values in order to succeed.
Commitment is similar to a solid handshake, and a gesture of enduring love.
These days, commitment sounds to have become synonymous with “servitude” and the loss of freedom.
True, it shows a willingness to do the hard work of holding a relationship together, even in difficult circumstances.
Making a lifelong commitment to somebody means saying no to all another competing possibility. That isn’t simple and should not be undertaken lightly.
However, the responsibilities of commitment are easy compared to the deep love you will get in return.
Commitment serves as glue during several vital phases of a relationship:
During the initial years
Some research shows that half of all divorces take place during the first two years of marriage. This is not shocking.
Melding two lives together is a hard thing. But if the couple made their vows with serious attitude, they will hang on and give the relationship a second chance to mature and meld.
When boredom sets in life
Every relationship has periods when improvement stops and nothing exciting happens in life, as low tide when the energy of the surf recedes.
Vows of lifelong loving become invaluable guidance systems during these times.
When trouble comes calling
Most relationships hit more than a few snags through the years like career uncertainties, the needs of parenthood, ill health, or a myriad of other real-life challenges.
These are the times that test both of you and define us. Commitment to a relationship for better or worse can save a marriage when the going gets tough.
When building trust and intimacy
How can we share our innermost selves with another individual if we know that we are being evaluated, that we may be disposed of? Impossible!
But if we understand beyond any doubt that our lover is absolutely committed, it is safe to let ourselves be vulnerable and transparent.
This is very valuable to personal improvement and to the strength of the relationship.
When struggling with fear of abandonment
Many of us carry childhood fears of abandonment into our adulthood and throughout our lives.
We worry that we are not better enough or that we will be left behind.
Knowing our relationship is secure frees us from this fear and help us to move forward with full confidence.
A big part of finding the true love of your life is knowing how to keep the love of your life.
Making a commitment to someone you love is not only a daring and romantic gesture; it also doesn’t hurt to gain a trustworthy partner.