Whether it is alone time, time with other friends and family, we all need our personal space in a relationship.
Learn how to give your girlfriend her space without affecting your relationship.
Just like you need your space, she needs her personal space too.
And whether she asks for it or not, part of being a good partner is knowing how to give your girlfriend her space.
But with that comes a few difficulties. You may give her too much space and look distant or not give her enough space and look clingy.
It is possible to find that glad medium though.
Why she needs her space?
Whether spending too much time with each other as a couple or you like to do specific activities without your girlfriend, she wants the same consideration from you.
Maybe you would rather play Fortnite with the buddies. Well, she may like to go shopping or out for drinks with other girls.
Your girlfriend space needs may very well have nothing to do with you. You could be perfectly happy as a couple, but spending time apart is part of a healthy relationship.
She needs to maintain her friendships and personality without you.
And that is not a bad thing. When you give her space, she gets time to recharge and can bring even more to your relationship, as can you.
So the first step to giving your girlfriend her space is to think of space as a positive thing, not a punishment.
How to give your girlfriend her space?
There is no step-by-step method when it comes to understanding how to give your girlfriend her space.
Every relationship and each woman is different. But this advice on how to give your girlfriend her space should guide you in the right way.
It will make giving your girlfriend her space simpler all around.
1. Don’t just look, understand.
As much as I like to boast about how girls are so good at communication, sometimes we are just as clueless as men.
We may want space but not know how to ask for it or even know that we need it.
If your girlfriend mentioned wanting to go out with other girls or to a concert you have no interest in but hasn’t made the plans, give her a little push.
Remind her she mentioned a girls night out not any other. Sometimes subtlety is a great way to go.
If your subtle move isn’t working, just talk to your girlfriend.
Let her know you’ve noticed she is a little off lately and wonder if she could use some change by doing something new just for her.
Whether that is doing something with her best friends or alone. Offer her to go out for the day so she can have the house to herself.
3. Take your space.
If you don’t want to rock the boat too much or put words in her mouth, let her know you want to go out with buddies or have plans of your own.
Taking time for yourself may just inspire her to do the same thing.
If the thought doesn’t cross her mind, your busy-ness will give her space without her even knowing.
4. Get her a gift.
A spa membership, a massage, tickets for her and her friends to attend a show are all great moves to give your girlfriend her space.
You aren’t being bitter or pushy about that. You are giving her a getaway and being classy about it.
Often when things are going well we are afraid space will ruin things, but offering an incentive can do the trick.
5. Be considerate.
Don’t force her to take space or be upset that she needs time apart.
However, she wants a night on the town or a cozy night in, just let her be. It can be hard to understand she needs time apart from you but consider her side.
6. Respect her time.
Don’t judge. You may have gone in thinking she would go to have a drink at her girlfriend’s house and vent about you, but maybe she wanted to get dressed up and hit the club.
If you trust her, there is no issue with that. Let her do whatever she wants. It is her personal space.
7. Be patient.
She may need more than just a night out. Maybe she wants a weekend away.
Or maybe she wants to cut off communication for a few days. Be patient with what she wants.
As long as you talk about the plan first so you aren’t just sitting around wondering what’s she’s doing, this space will strengthen your relationship.
8. Enjoy your time.
Yes, the main intention here is to give your girlfriend her space. Don’t forget to enjoy your personal space too.
This is your time to be happy as well. Do something you never do while she is around or that you like to do alone or with your best friends.
Her space doesn’t mean you have to sit around twiddling your thumbs, you can have a great time too.
9. Be there for her if she needs you.
Space is not black and white. Just because you’re giving her space doesn’t mean you aren’t speaking with her or she is on her own until midnight. This is not a fairytale.
Before she goes out, remind her to have a great time. Let her know you’ll be there to pick her up if she wants you.
Giving her space is important but remember this is not a breakup. Just a simple little breather. Remind her when she wants you, you will be there.
10. Remember this is good.
You may have gone in thinking this was the best idea. Now she is out and about, and you’re worried.
But keep in mind that, understanding how to give your girlfriend her space is beneficial to your relationship.
Your time together means more, and you both bring more to the relationship when you nurture your independence.
How not to give your girlfriend her space
If you aren’t good at communication or bringing up new topics to talk, these may be your go-to ways to give your girlfriend her space.
They are just a disaster waiting to happen in future. So before you try these failed methods, don’t.
1. Ghost her.
Giving her the space she needs is good, but just going silent and cutting her off for hours to days is cruel.
Space is not helpful if she doesn’t understand that what this is.
In fact, if you just quit talking to her to give her space, you will more likely be making her think about you. She’ll wonder what is really going on, which is not space at all.
So remember, talk to her before giving her her space.
2. Shut down.
Like ghosting, growing distant to let her have time alone is not helpful.
If she reaches out via msg or in person, and you just keep things on the basic level, you once again make things worse.
Giving her space without knowing her that is what you’re doing is a surefire way to make things a hell of a lot worse.
3. Cancel plans.
Her time is her’s not yours. You cannot decide once or wherever she takes her space.
If you have got plans she possibly wants you to stay with her, thus don’t offer her space spur of the instance like that.
4. Start a fight.
Maybe you want to give your girlfriend her space so you can have your space, so you start an argument. That sounds healthy, but it’s WRONG!
Trust me, bringing up calmly that you want space and time for yourself is much more helpful and healthy than a fight to create space.
That is just another bad move altogether.
5. Ask her when she’s had enough.
Let’s say you gave your girlfriend her space. You agreed she would go out with her group of friends once a week.
Yes, you can let her know you’ll be there when she no longer wants said space, but don’t reach out all night.
Do not ask what she’s doing or remind her, again and again, to be safe or ask her how to boil water or play the DVR.
If you are giving her her space, just simply do it.
Hopefully, you now understand how to give your girlfriend her space without making things worse.
Having your own space from a relationship is great, just be sure to communicate so it doesn’t go the wrong way.