It is the starring role in many movies and the main character in many books, but what does true love really feel like in real life?
True love is a deep and very passionate feeling of affection for someone special.
And what makes answering what does it feel like so hard to explain is that you don’t understand it until you’ve felt it. And sometimes even then you aren’t so sure.
I first felt the love in my life when I was 16. I was very sure it was true love. It was so strong and so overwhelming and ruled most of my life.
And although it is not always happy and healthy, often it is dysfunctional, what I felt then was not really true love.
It was puppy love. It was my first love at that time in my life when I didn’t know myself. I was blind to major red flags and changed whole my lifestyle to make the relationship work.
Although the feelings were very intense, it comes with a level of respect, admiration, and honesty in life.
Soulmates VS True love
True love and soulmates are two different things. Soulmates are two individuals that are meant to be together beyond all reason. They perfectly fit together and are perfectly suited for each other. And not every person believes in soulmates.
But true love is a little bit different. It can happen more than once in one life. You are not meant to feel true love with one specific individual, and if you don’t find them, it won’t really work.
True love is about always being there and being happy to be there. It takes some work and time and so much care. However, soulmates are bound together by fate, unlike true love which is a lasting feeling that needs to be maintained.
What is true love?
True love is not what you think as “relationship goals”. It is a couple that has been together for 30 plus years. They have gone through many ups and downs and worked with one another to survive and be as happy as possible.
A couple that feels homophobia daily but leans on each other to make sure love wins.
It is always being happy to compromise because you made your lover happy.
It is doing something for another individual without expecting anything in return.
True love is all about support and respect through every struggle, up and down.
It is mixture honesty, forgiveness, trust, and openness.
But what does true love really feel like?
It can feel like many things. And unless you have felt it before these things may just seem like nothing to you.
However, when you are lucky enough to feel it, you will know each and every one of these feelings.
1. Your favorite snack
Your favorite food, your favorite snacks, that one you always go to no matter the time or mood you’re in.
So what does it really feel like? True love feels like coming home after a busy day of work, taking off your shoes, putting on sweatpants, and laying on the bed. It is that relax and comfort.
There is a security with true love that nothing can compare with that. You feel safe in your lover’s presence; both mentally and physically. You can even call them and by only hearing their voice makes you less nervous.
True love feels like you are in a constant learning process. You are learning about your lover, about yourself, and about your whole world and what you want together out of life.
Real love feels like knowing everything will work out in life. You know it won’t be simple, and it will take some time and some effort, but you know you both understand where the other is coming from.
6. Clean sheets
That feeling of crawling into a freshly washed set of sheets at night after a shower is what it really feels like.
True love feels like trust, just geniune trust. You may think if they lied about taking out the trash, but you understand when it matters they will tell you the truth.
Compassion is something we mostly lack for so many others, but true love opens you up to it. You feel what your lover feels. You feel for your partner and they go through what you go through.
Not that polite or nervous laughter, that rolling on the floor, can’t breathe laughter is what it really feels like. That genuine joy and happiness to the point of all ridiculousness.
That care your best friend gives you, that care you mom gave when she brought you soup when you were sick, that care your grandma gave when she babysat, that care is what love really feels like. You know it’s very rare and can’t be replicated.
Giving and receiving support is vital for true love. From starting a family to getting a promotion, or launching your own company, it’s all about giving and receiving. It comes with lots of support for your lover and joint goals, but also a respect for independence.
In true love, the only fear you have is the fear of loss, but that is greatly outweighed by enjoying every moment with your true love.
You know that feeling at the end of a first date when you know it went well and you got along and had chemistry? Well, the connection you created from true love is like that times a billion.
When your pet pees on the floor, but then does the cutest thing and cuddles with you, you know that all the cleaning
I know I am sitting here literally explaining what true love feels like with as many metaphors as I possibly can, but it really is indescribable.
Ego is not usually something that is involved with true love, but confidence is vital.
Although you shouldn’t gain your self-confidence through your lover or the success of the relationship, knowing that you found this individual. To feel the happiness you feel makes you proud and You deserve it.
17. Commitment & Dedication
Commitment is an important part of true love and knowing that you are dedicated to your partner and this relationship and they are to you is like no other feeling in the life.
True love feels like you finally have somebody that gets you. They see who you really are and love it all, even the parts you may not like so much.
It feels like you don’t have to explain anything to yourself, but when you do they understand.
Yeah! it is cheesy, but it can feel like bliss. Sure, you share your all ups and downs and every single moment isn’t paradise, but the bliss you feel in some moments will always outweigh any hiccups when it comes to true love.
Although true love requires hard work and dedication and commitment on your relationship, there is a constant feeling of being very lucky.
You might wonder what you did to deserve this individual in your life. And although it is more about your working well with each other, that luck reminds you to experience and enjoy every moment of your life and not take it for granted.
What does it really feel like? In simple words, it feels however you want it to feel.
It feels however you’ve forever wished it to feel and always imagined it would, only better, much better.