So you’re dating someone and you want to keep her happy?
Well, all you need to make her feel cared for is to understand how how to be a gentleman.
Men will be men, and oftentimes, that means being a common thing to the female sensibility.
Unintentional though it may be, guys often forget to do the small things that get under a girl’s skin–the things she expects ruining perfectly happy and healthy relationships.
It’s those seemingly little things that add up over time and will make or break your dynamic of your relationship together.
What are these small things? And why do they matter so much in life? Because once a woman grows up and stops dating the wrong type of guys, she’ll want somebody that can build and maintain a strong connection.
For instance, anyone can get the girl, but not everyone can keep her around. By being a gentleman, and treating her with respect as every woman deserves, you can be the guy other guys envy.
Here are 15 basic tips how to be a
1. Keep all promises or if you can’t, not making promises at all.
The most annoying thing about a man who makes fake promises is that he comes off as unreliable. In a relationship, partners have to be able to trust one another and count on each other.
If you keep breaking promises, she will know to never let you in on what may be going on, because…well, what’s the point?
This can lead to a serious issue in the relationship, making you seem like you take her for granted, or leading her to feel she could do better than this.
2. Being attentive.
This means holding doors open for her, giving her a kiss when she asks for one even if you’re in the middle of something.
Keeping in contact when you’re not together, etc. Life is busy, and responsibilities pile up, but your relationship should be your highest priority.
Something as easy as sending her a msg, telling her you to miss her is appreciated. If you don’t have time to talk or dedicate time to spend with her, let her know you’ll make her your main focus as soon as you’re free.
It may sound off-handed, but it’s when you overlook her for a long time, without letting her know what’s going on in your life, that it really puts a strain on the relationship.
3. Showing her you two can blow off steam and have fun with each other.
Relationships may take hard work, but they shouldn’t be all serious, all the time. One of the biggest sides of a relationship is fostering the ability to share and make good memories together.
Blowing off the week’s steam, and being silly with each other will not only provide memories you’ll both love, but it will also bring you closer.
Be her partner, and her close friend, and watch as she lets you see all the other sides of her personality.
4. Being open and honest with her.
Men are visual thinkers, while women are all about communication. Opening up and telling her about a job, your friends and family, or your innermost feelings and fears will have more of a positive impact than going out and getting her flowers.
She knows how hard it is for you, and the fact that you still find a way to open up it shows that she’s special to you.
5. Being there when hard times come.
One of the major reasons, if not that mush major reason, some women leave their partners for other men is because their partners were never there when they needed them most.
If you’re not there for her when she wants help or someone to talk to, someone else will be for sure.
That one friend you hate, that clearly thinks she’s cute? He’ll be there to support her, not you, so why should you get to keep her?
Being there for your girl during the hard times will show her that you’re willing to help her, should the need arise.
6. Having the balls to tell her when there’s something she should know.
Most men don’t know is that women don’t expect men to be perfect. Sometimes women nag, it’s because their partners didn’t tell them something until much, much later, or they find out another way.
Telling her when something serious happens will show her that even though you’re not perfect, you know how to let her in on the details, and maintain an honest relationship with her.
However, if she’s upset at first, she’ll come around, and you can work things out calmly together.
7. Including her in your life as a priority, not an afterthought.
A man who only talks with his woman when it’s convenient for him isn’t taking his relationship too seriously. Relationships shouldn’t be self-focused. In fact, they should be the exact opposite.
If you’re absent more often than not, both physically and mentally, she will start to feel neglected. A neglected woman is a sad woman, who wants to work problems out with you.
8. By letting both of you wear the pants in the relationship.
Being dominating in a relationship can be sexy when done correctly. For instance, dominating every aspect of her life isn’t going to work well, but dominating her in the bedroom very well might.
Keep a balance in a relationship, and let her take the reins too because let’s face it: she’s probably better a few things that you are. Play up one another’s strengths!
9. Being kind to her family and friend.
There are other important people in her life, remember that. When dating a girl, it’s important that her friends and family members like you.
The last thing you want is people giving her thoughts, like telling her to move on in life, or pointing out your flaws.
They’ll cheer for you, if you show them how good you are, and maybe even take your side.
Furthermore, showing her you love her will tell your partner how much you actually care about her.
Form a connection with these people into your life together, and you’ll see how much fun it is seeing her get along with everyone she loves, including you.
10. Being a gentleman.
You know those ideas and comments that you say to her face, that make her feel bad about herself?
That’s the type of behavior that gets you sent to the curb, along with the rest of the garbage.
Being a gentleman means being alert of her wants and needs, as well as your own.
Treating her like the woman deserves, and giving her a sense of freedom, while still catering to her when the time is right, will earn you a large amount of respect.
Being a gentleman will make her think like you’re a catch, and she’ll go the extra mile to make you feel like it.
11. Letting her see you enjoy your hobbies and life.
It’s sexy when men have some passions they genuinely strive for. If you have hobbies like model building, playing the guitar, playing video games, photography, or graphic design etc.
Show off your skills! Show her and prove that there’s more to you than meets the eye.
Not only will she notice how talented you are, but she’ll also boast about you, and boost your ego. Impressing your girl should always be your priority.
12. Improve those listening skills.
Men dread the idea of having lengthy conversations, or of hearing their women talk for a long time.
What you don’t understand is that when she tells you things, it is either to vent or get your opinion about something.
Your opinion is important to her, and this is her way of letting you know that you matter.
Don’t be afraid to speak your mind about the thing at hand, but make sure you listen also.
Having a listening ability can be a bit tedious, but she’ll take notice, and may even reward you with a special date night.
13. Affection, affection, affection!
Gentlemen can cop a feel too! If you have someone special lady, show her how sexy you think she is by grabbing her legs or giving her butt a tap.
Don’t think that it’s a vulgar move unless you’re not actually dating.
By doing this will definitely make you happy, but it will also give her a sense of reassurance, knowing that you think she’s hot.
14. Involve her into your family and friend dynamic.
Much like you should form connections with her loved ones, you should support her to do the same with yours.
Sure, you can still have boys’ nights, but don’t be afraid to bring her around every now and then.
Otherwise, she’ll start to think like you lead two separate lives, and question what it is you do behind her back.
Bringing her around family members and friends will show them you’re serious, and they’ll want to get to know her more and include her in plans, to make her feel accepted. If you want her to be a part of your life, make her one first.
15. Reciprocating in the bedroom.
Make sure that when you’re getting it on, it isn’t all about you. If you spend more than half your time getting attended to, you need to make it up to her right away. Not just time, but content also.
If she’s going down on you, and then rides you. Don’t just lie there and take it easy, make sure to flip her over also.
Once it’s been a little while, of course. Do the things you know she likes and enjoys to do, and watch as she has the time of her life.
Anyone can get his dream girl, but maintaining a healthy and happy relationship is a hard thing to do. Rather than giving into some comfort, work on being a gentleman, and keep her on her toes!
By showing her that you’re reliable, attentive, affectionate, and honest with her. You can live life into the relationship, and ensure a fun, exciting dynamic in your love life.