Long distance relationships are hard to maintain, but the distance doesn’t have to ruin your relationship either.
With the 100 % commitment and communication, long distance relationships can actually be more stable than close relationships.
Simple adjustments in your lifestyle can help you keep your relationship on the track.
Here are some tips to make long distance relationship work :
Stay in contact as often as possible
Since you won’t be seeing one another like before (in person), it’s important to establish and maintain an emotional connection as often as you can.
Frequent communication is the key to maintain a long-distance relationship. No matter how minor, will show that you care enough to put in the time and effort into the relationship.
If you allow large gaps like days at a time to pass by, your everyday experiences fade into the background, and you will have to start from scratch every time you speak, so make sure you maintain communication.
Know your partner’s preferred method for communication. Make sure to try a variety of technologies to see what works best for you both.
You may try texting, emailing, or video-calling to keep in touch with little daily details of your lives.
Talk about the little things
Don’t feel as though every conversation needs to be a thoughtful discussion about your relationship, hopes, expectations or dreams.
Focus on the little things that couples who live together would, like grocery shopping or redecorating.
These little things give the feeling of creating a home together. Or send him pics of dress you wanna buy. Something you both can look forward to.
A conversation about the boring parts of your day can also foster connection and interdependence, the foundation of relationships.
Remember, you should try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible.
You have to try to see each other in person at every possible opportunity or make a regular visiting schedule. At least make plans for the next visit as soon as each one ends.
Face-to-face conversation is just as important as having relationship satisfaction. Try to meet away from home sometimes, too.
For example, Visit a place together that is new to both of you or visit a place that is halfway between both of you.
These meetings can help you to make your bond strong. Also, it’ll help you to notice the change in your partner’s behavior. You know what I mean!
Get to know each other
Just like any relationship, you should spend some time really getting to know each other and understand your partner.
When talking, take note of things he/she enjoys the most (like hobbies or day-to-day activities) and do a little research on it so you have something more to discuss in next meeting.
Remember that your partner is a normal human. I know, distance makes the heart grow fonder, but can also make you idealize your partner.
While this can make your relationship stable and extreme idealization (thinking your partner is perfect) will make it more difficult to reunite with the actual person.
Support each other, even over the distance
Always be there for your partner if your partner is ever in trouble, hurt, or for whatever reason.
You need to make yourself 100% available to help so your partner knows you care.
If he/she ends up dealing with important issues alone, your partner will eventually not need you. Supporting each other creates an interdependence that is very crucial for a long distance relationship.
Interdependence can be seen in everyday life-like compromising about decisions and long-term behaviors like quitting smoking.
Trust in a relationship is 100 % vital, regardless of distance. Try your best to be faithful with your partner.
You do make a mistake, it’s especially important, to be honest. Make sure you do tell your partner the truth in cases where lying would benefit you.
Be open and honest by volunteering private information with your partner. You should both be totally committed to each other. Make sure you are continuing the relationship because of personal values, not because of social pressures.
Personal values mean beliefs like “staying faithful is part of my identity.” Social pressures include the perception of society’s approval or disapproval.
Watch out for behaviors of your partner where he/she tries to manipulate you into doing something that only benefits your partner. For instance, lying about an emergency to get you to answer your phone during an important business meeting.
If dishonesty and manipulation become a part of your conversations, then you must revisit why your relationship lacks trust.
Think then react
Don’t do anything wrong just because you’re angry or upset about something they’ve said or done.
Communication is key, if you have a problem then talk it out with your partner, it will build better trust and a stronger bond between you and your partner.
You can’t maintain a relationship if you are worried about what they will do something to you because you did something out of anger.
Pursue common interests
Try new activities together, even if it means doing them apart. This way, you’re not just talking on the phone, which can be a downfall of long-distance relationships if it’s the only thing you ever do.
Instead, do something romantic such as stargazing while you’re on the phone.
Synchronize and set a timer to go off at the same time every day, and make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off.
Ask the important questions right away to make sure you are both clear on the nature of your relationship.
Try to decide what kind of relationship you both want. For example, are you dating or seeing each other or boyfriend-girlfriend or engaged?
You should also define the exclusivity of your relationship (whether you’ll see other people).
Talk through doubts, uncertainty, and fear together
Explore the scary and difficult things along with the good. Consider this as a chance to explore your feelings together with honesty.
Recognizing your partner’s ups and downs while you are physically apart from each other will make you more accepting and comfortable with their low points when you see each other in next meeting.
I can understand that you might only want to focus on the positive. But, you should let your partner know your low points too.
Both of you are human, and it’s OK to be upset sometimes.
You should have reasonable expectations from your partner. Such as, you may be prepared to have difficulties around important dates or holidays that you must be apart for.
If you know you can’t be together for your anniversary, try to plan some special way to connect anyway, don’t get upset for that.
Remember, every kind of relationship takes hard work and 100 % dedication to your loved one or partner, whether it’s long distance or nearby.
If you and your partner are willing to take these easy steps, then expect bumps and turns in the road.
If you can learn to pass them, these challenges will only contribute towards a better relationship in the long-term, So stop worrying.