How to Know if a Guy Likes You

Have a crush on someone but not sure if the feeling is mutual or not? there are a few ways to figure out that a guy’s interested in you or not!

♥ Examine his body language ♥

Body language can be the “big tell” when it comes to knowing if he is interested in you or not! Body language experts believe that while females have around 52 body language tells to show a guy that they’re interested in you where guys show around only 10.

Some of the signs of body language you need to watch before making any move:

  He looks at you a lot. He may not even be really conscious he is watching you as much as he is.

Notice how much he looks at your face and makes eye contact.

He leans towards you a lot. Personal space invasion is a great sign of major interest.

Check the direction of his hands, feet, legs, toes, etc. If they’re pointed toward you, it’s a    subconscious indicator of his interest in you.

Check out how he’s sitting.

If you see rather manly gestures, such as sitting with open legs or placing his hands on his hips, he’s trying to impress you.

If he likes you, you may see that he rarely turns his back to you. If he points his shoulders and pelvis towards you while sitting, he is definitely feeling something for you.


♥ Eye contact ♥

As I said before, a guy who is interested in you will look at you a lot. If he’s a little bit shy, he may suddenly turn his head away if you catch him checking you out.

To see his interest, scan his face for four seconds, then look away (make sure you don’t look any longer or it becomes awkward). Then look back––if he maintains or increases eye contact with you, he’s interested.

On the other hand, if he breaks eye contact with you and starts looking around the room, he’s not interested in you.

Make sure not to confuse a shy guy’s darting retreat from eye contact with a guy who is clearly disinterested.

And don’t worry, shy guy who is interested will continue to steal glances at you. If you don’t like the guy and you are uncomfortable to maintain eye contact; break it off quickly and scan the room yourself, as if looking for someone else.

When he’s around you and he says or does something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed too––that indicates he’s keen to make a good impression.

 ♥ Listen to what he’s saying 

If he likes you, and he’s too nervous, he’ll probably start talking about himself. Many times, guys feel the need to prove themselves to females, especially if you talk about another guy in his company.

Notice his interest in touching and being touched

Touch is a great sign of interest in a developing relationship and you can access interest both by observing how he touches you and how he reacts to you touching him.

If he’s keen on you, he might put his hand on yours when he laughs, he might gently brush his leg against yours but won’t move it away again, expressing feelings when telling a story or just because you “look like you need a hug.”

On the other hand, consider touching him to see what happens––a gentle touch of your hand against his neck, a hold of his forearm, or running your fingers across his hand after joking with him about something.

A guy is interested in you if he responds to it and doesn’t flinch away or if he moves his hand to stay on yours or on your arm or leg. On the other hand, if he tenses up or moves his hand away when he’s not interested.

If a guy is shy, he may jump a little because he wasn’t prepared for you to touch him. That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you, watch his actions carefully afterward. Obviously, playboy guys (bad boys) might be very keen to spread their touching gestures around; be sure that he has more substance than this by observing how he interacts with other females in your group.


Watch his actions to see if he treats you special from the rest of your group

If he’s really interested, he may start to behave more protectively toward you, or in a “gentlemanly” fashion. You should look for signs like shifting his chair closer to yours, putting his arm around the back of your chair or even going so far as to place the jacket around you.

Keep in mind that some guys flirt with other girls to get your attention. It gives him a chance to see your response and helps him know if you really do like him or not.

Watch for him showing a sudden or unexpressed interest in things that you like and do

For example, if you like a certain kind of music that he doesn’t know as well, he may ask you to suggest bands or artists for him to listen to.

Or, this may be difficult for him to finding out that a favorite band of yours is playing next weekend and mention to this, with or without a request to go and listen together.

And, if you told him about a TV show that he didn’t really know about and that becomes his new favorite thing, that can potentially be a sign that he is interested in you, especially if he goes out of his way to catch up with you to discuss the show’s unfolding plot.


♥ Nervousness 

Signs like nervous laughter, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, or possibly even looking away quickly when you notice he is watching you, can all be major signs of an attraction towards you.

If he is nervous about making an impression on you, it means he’s trying so hard and you are probably very close to being able to start making moves.

♥ Pay attention to his friends 

If they know he’s interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you’re around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him.

Study their reactions to your presence––do they smile? Do they turn to him?

♥ Look to see if he imitates you 

Mirroring each other’s actions (or movements) is a sign of mutual like and generally, it’s subconscious.

If you notice that he has been copying your gestures frequently, there is a high probability that he is interested in you.

You can see this by mirroring his actions too, for example, touch your hair when he touches his, brush your face when he brushes his, sit the way he is sitting, etc. His subconscious signals will be screaming at you that “he likes you too!”

♥ Pay attention to gentle, friendly teasing 

If a guy teases you in a friendly manner, it could indicate his interest, especially if he’s young.

This isn’t his modus operandi with every girl he flirts with, it’s a sign that he’s singled you out for attention and he is trying to charm you, in that awkward way of using humor to cover up what’s in his mind.

Of course, if he says something unkind, don’t feel you have to excuse it––point it out directly if he offends you; it’s the best way, he knows now that you won’t take nonsense than to discover it later.

Some guys make fun of a girl they like in a slightly mean way. If this goes too far, he may need a reminder to act mature.

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If a guy playfully punches you on your arm, this may mean he likes you. He may gently hit or punch you on the arm as a covert, “manly” way of getting to touch you without making it too obvious what his intention is.

If a guy finds that you don’t pull away too much when he does this, he might find the courage to proceed to more gentle ways of touching you.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you need to sit there in pain––be assertive enough to point out that it hurt! You can motivate his pride by saying something about not minding him touching you but to please watch out for your sensitive bony bits!

And if you’re the kind of girl who finds the play punching a bit of fun, don’t hesitate to give him a playful knock right back.

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If he chats to you often on a social media site, it may mean that he likes you

After all, there are many things competing for his time, like games, connecting with mates and checking out sites online that might not be so interesting to you.

Of course, he could also just be talkative, friendly, so don’t assume he’s into you just for chatting. This should be treated as one extra indicator along with some of the others outlined above.

If he puts a some sign on the end of everything he says to you, don’t assume it means he likes you. It just mean that he perceives you both as good friends or that he’s just used to ending his chats that way.

If he says, “I know something you don’t know,” then this could mean that he is interested in you and is playing a little guessing game.

Or it could just mean he’s doing the usual social media thing of spreading information for fun, like the discovery of a new planet or finding the cure to cancer, etc. Use the context to decide the import of any such online personal game playing.


If you find such signs and you are 100% sure he is interested in you then read How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You.

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