Ending a relationship is really difficult, no matter it was your decision or your partner’s decision.
You may be dealing with painful feelings and want to deal with those emotions as quickly as possible.
There are several ways that you can work through your painful emotions and start to move on, such as allowing yourself to grieve, and being cautious about rebound relationships.
Remember that, getting over a breakup need time and patience. If things don’t seem to get better with time, remember that you can always turn to friends, family for support.
Keep distance from your partner
Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends after breakup, break away completely from each other right after the breakup.
This means not seeing each other, no phone calls, no e-mails, no text messages, no Facebook, nothing.
You don’t have to have stop talking forever, but you do need to cut all communication with your ex as long as it takes to get completely over your ex.
If your ex tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you’re reliving the past by seeing him/her, it’s not hard to get caught up in the moment and it will be harder to let go again.
You may have to have some contact in order to deal with the practical aspects like moving out, signing papers, etc., but try to limit this to what’s absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings short.
Organize your space
A breakup can signify a new beginning your life. Therefore, cleaning and organizing your space will leave you feeling refreshed.
A mess can be overwhelming and depressing, and will just increase your stress level.
Keeping busy with tidying your space doesn’t require a lot of hard work, but it does require just enough focus to keep you from recycling your pain.
Remove painful memory triggers.
There are many kinds of things that remind you of your ex like a song, a smell, a sound, a place. Having these items around you can make it difficult for you to recover from your breakup.
Remove all of such things that make your heart ache or your stomach turn. It can work wonders to clean your space of all these triggers.
If you have a keepsake, like a watch or piece of jewelry that was given to you by your ex, there’s nothing wrong with keeping it. But for the time being, try putting all those things away until you have gotten over the relationship.
Get out and do something new
After breakup, it’s okay to have some time to yourself alone in room.
Just make sure that you get back out in the world after you have processed your emotions.
Make plans, hang out with friends, and have fun! It might seem awkward at first, but it will get easier and it will help you to feel fresh and better.
Getting out and doing new things is also important because you need to grow and maintain your social life after a breakup. Doing so will help you to move on and start new life.
Continue to take care of yourself.
It is normal for people to put less effort into self-care after a breakup, but doing so will not help you to feel better.
Make sure that you are taking care of your basic needs for mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.
If you were not taking good care of yourself before the relationship ended, now is a good time to start taking care of yourself . Make 100% sure that you are eating well, sleeping enough, making time for relaxation, and getting regular exercise.
Eat a balanced and healthy diet that includes plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein. Avoid junk food and get between 7-8 hours of sleep. Exercise for 30 minutes regularly.
Know that the pain you are feeling is normal
After a breakup, it is common for people to feel sad, angry, frightened, and other emotions as well.
You might be worried that you will end up alone or that you won’t be happy again in your life.
Just keep in mind that it is normal to feel this way after a breakup and that you need to feel these emotions in order to move on.
Take a break from your daily routine.
It may be necessary for you to take a short break from your routine after a breakup.
Having this time may help you to process your emotions and function better in the long run.
Just make sure that you do not do anything that will threaten your other relationships or other parts of your life.
Surround yourself with supportive people.
You want people around you who love you and who will help you to recover.
Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile person, and you’ll find it easier to get steady on your feet again with your loved ones around you.
Find healthy ways to soothe your emotional pain. It may be your subconscious wants you to ignore or dull your pain by turning to alcohol, drugs, or food, but these will not provide long-term solutions.
Try to avoid these unhealthy methods of dealing with your emotional pain.
Instead, try to find new ways of dealing with your feelings that will lead to growth and recovery.
Deal with your anger.
Feeling angry occur when you feel you have been wronged or there has been unfair treatment with you.
In a situation where you will not contact your ex-partner, the best way to deal with anger alone is to relax and keep your mind calm.
Take deep breaths before doing anything stupid.
Remind yourself of your ex’s negative traits.
Remembering all of the things that you don’t like about your ex can help you to get over the breakup faster.
Stand by your decision.
If the breakup was your decision, keep in mind that focusing on the good times you had with your ex may cause you to forget the reasons why you broke it off.
Try not to second-guess the situation if the decision to end things was not yours. It’s very normal to romanticize the good parts of the relationship and easy convince yourself that the bad parts weren’t so bad after all.
Don’t play this game with mind. Accept the situation and work on moving forward.